Have you seen this dramatic picture? It pops up every now and then on the internet.
via SIZZLE(I do not know who the original creator is)
This image is a good metaphor for how we grow stronger and become more endurable over time. Judging from the wounds, those arrows actually should be enough to kill. So it seems like that wolf is really tough. Since this is an overly dramatic inspirational poster, I can buy it. However, as I see this picture, there is one thing that I always think of. Do you know what I mean? Yes, exactly, that poor animal would really feel a lot better without any arrows in its back.
You do well to remember this perspective.
The bigger, older wolf may bear those arrows with pride, as they indicate that it must be very strong in order to be able to live with them. But oh boy must they hurt!
While it is good to grow strong, often our lives would be much easier if we just focused more on getting rid of stuff that hurt us.
What you must let go of
Most distractions in our minds are quite harmless. However, there are some things that we really should let go of, because holding onto them hurt us or limit us all the time. At the same time, letting go of them will release resources which makes our hearts lighter and our minds healthier. These things stem mainly from our own misguided attitudes towards ourselves and each other.
It takes a conscious effort to let go of these things. Thus, for every thing you let go of, you experience the satisfaction and enhancement of getting more disciplined. This is just like it feels good to relax after a long walk or workout and your body becomes stronger by the exercise.
I will refer to Luminita D. Saviuc’s list named 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy, as her list covers the most important things that we all could to let go of. She is direct in her communication and without overcomplicating anything, she will let you know why you will feel better if you let go.
Here is the full list http://www.purposefairy.com/3308/15-things-you-should-give-up-in-order-to-be-happy/
You can also try downloading the meditation app Omvana, which lets you choose between several meditation tracks and soundtracks to listen to, including Luminita’s free track in which she reads the article aloud. As I write this, just searching for “15 things” or scrolling through the free section is enough to find it.
Now, remember that we are all unique and learn in different ways. You choose how you interpret Luminita’s message and what you should pay special attention to in your own life.
I want to point out three items on the list which are especially hard, much more easier said than done. This is why I come back to them all the time in this blog.
Give up on your fears
Give up living your life to other people’s expectations
Give up your limiting beliefs
How to let go
The major step to letting go of harmful attitudes is to realize what you should let go of. Then you just consciously keep this in mind and actively try to drop it. Easy, huh? Not really. Change your thoughts and habits gradually, over weeks. Play for the long game. You don’t have to keep these 15 things in mind all at the same time. Focus on what you want to let go of.
That said, there are obviously different ways to finally accomplish this. This is why I will try to give some advice on the topic.
There are quick-fixes and tactics to everything. Using these as your only strategy is setting yourself up for failure. Life is not something you can deal with just by cleaning your desk or breathing deeply. It takes time and continuous effort to change your life.
Control requires acceptance, self-recognition. Always be honest to yourself and seek out the root cause for your feelings. You have to learn to live with your feelings. We do not master our emotions when we repress them. We master our emotions when we recongize them and then act on these realizations, in order to live through them or in order to change our mental state.
Oh well. I know most people nowadays won’t be satisfied until they get something more concrete to go on. Like a list of proposed solutions, quick-fixes and cheap tactics. Well, since I already know of a quite useful and comprehensive list on how to deal with letting go on tinybuddha, I will refer to that list instead of writing my own. Here it is!
Congratulations! You have reached the end of this article.
Now go out and live your life.